I performed my first wedding, in 2001, as an act of civil disobedience. And I have not stopped. I am an avoider of arguments, embarrassing social situations, and conflict of all kinds. I did not wish to be shot or shouted at or even to receive snarky, sarcastic comments. But I also could not stand by, and say no, and refuse to marry this couple of women who loved each other and wanted a blessing on their union. So I said yes. Over the years, the need for lawbreaking wedding officiants has lessened, but my conviction has not: if you want to get married, I will help.